Category: Self Help

Wow, this was something that I learned big time last year and still walking it out for this year. I used to try to run to everything around that was going on. People would be saying different things than what pertained to me and things that didn’t really do anything for my life.

I got involved in some things that even distracted me from what I was really supposed to be doing and the road I was supposed to be walking down.

I finally heard this phrase loud and clear! Just because something is exciting going on around me doesn’t mean that I have to participate. I have to stay focused! Staying focused sharpens my own destiny and makes my life fall together better. It gives me structure in my life and works out my own destiny. Things are not always about other people’s lives and purposes and destinies. Sometimes I get to have one too!😍

I would even be places that were serving me well in some areas but not in others. Maybe I was supposed to be there for a time but not forever. Here are 4 things that I do every morning now to get my day started off right and keep me from getting distracted:

1. Pray

2. Read

3. Write

4. Exercise

I realized that if I do them everyday that I don’t have to remember which days I do it. I won’t say, “Oh forgot that, I will do it tomorrow,” because I do it Everyday!

It grounds me… it centers me…it defines me! I’m not trying to be someone else or what they want me to be for them. I’m being Me and what I’m created to be!!

The exercises that I do are rotated between 2 YouTube videos which are 15 minutes each, one is walking a mile and the other is a weight lifting workout! This simplified it for me and keeps me from leaving the house and getting distracted into too many other things!

I’m not saying that is right for you, but it works for me. It’s all about focusing on my identity and not getting lost.

The most amazing thing is that I am not missing anything… things come into my life instead of me going out searching to find them! They are the richest things that come into my life!! Things that I couldn’t have made happen!! Things that are drawn to me!! Things that don’t try to change me!! Try to embrace your own lane!! It’s not a lonely place, it’s a wonderful place!!

If you need help finding your lane and purpose contact me!! I’d be glad to help!!

#Be You

#Stay in your lane

#Learn Your lessons

#Stay focused on what you have to offer

#Stay away from confusion

#See you soon!❤️

I have so much to say in this blog today. I’m trying to bring it all together to make sense!

It’s not good to complain about something that we have no vision to change. Complaining about things is very draining and does not attract positive outcomes into our life!

Having a grateful heart is a magnet for miracles. Do you think you can go 24 hours without complaining? The beginning of this month I set out to do just that. Guess what happened? So many things came about to complain about that it made it very hard to accomplish. Does that really surprise you? Not me! I have learned that ANY time I set out to do something I can expect HUGE opposition!

The opposition does NOT win though! We have to learn to have PEACE in the midst of the storm! That is very attainable by changing the way we think!! We can’t keep thinking that bad things are not supposed to happen, because they just do!

Between Marty and myself in the last 2 months we have had 8 people in our immediate family pass away. I had 2 cousins with young sons that died, one took his life and the other was drugs, my sister in law passed away to cancer, my stepmother passed away, I had a 2nd cousin die, then one month later his son that was my age fell and hit his head and passed away, Marty’s 1st cousin that was so sweet and 45 also passed away with cancer. You know, there have been moments that I thought, man I need to grieve this all and process it! Which is true, we do have to do that…. but the main, main truth that you have to get out of what I am saying is this: THERE IS NEVER A TIME FOR SELF PITY!!

Grieving is different than self pity! Life is not supposed to be full of self pity every time a sad thing occurs! We go through the stages of grief, we deal with them, we heal and move on! Some people are closer and we have to grieve a little longer but I can’t imagine one person that would want their family member to sit around and feel sorry for themselves because they passed!

I’m still waiting today for the funeral arrangements of 2 of the family members this week, but I can’t help but realize the things in my life that I am so, so blessed about! There are always blessings and things to be grateful for! Think of those things even more than grief!!

We got to go down to Florida and visit family and swim and celebrate birthdays with them, we got to enjoy 82 degrees a few weeks ago, we got to stop and visit my Dad and my nephew, that had just lost his mom, on the way home! We got to go pick up my daughter from N. Carolina at the airport to celebrate her little 3 year old niece’s birthday over the weekend! And today I get to celebrate my Dad’s 96th Birthday, even though he just lost his wife, my stepmom, 2 days ago!

My Dad fought against the Nazis in The Battle of the Bulge in Germany! He’s a soldier and survivor still living to tell about the battles.

He has not had a perfect life, we didn’t realize until the last few years that he probably suffered PTSD all of his life and we didn’t realize it. But he has managed with God’s help to leave a legacy!

My life also has been much, much trauma just like lots of us have been! The trick is, what do you do with the trauma? Do you use it to learn new mindsets, new ways to survive, new ways to help others?

The things we have struggled with the most are usually the things that teach us the most if we are willing to learn! I am so excited to use my trauma to speak life and love into other people’s lives! It gives me purpose and destiny!

I hope you find your destiny and purpose! Every ugly thing can be turned into beauty! It’s all about perspective!!

#Beauty for Ashes

#Joy for Mourning

#praise over heaviness

#no pity parties allowed

See you soon❣️😘

Just recently someone did an interview with me on a blogpost…mainly it was about mindsets. It made me think about the way changing my #mindset has actually changed my life.

When I got raped at knifepoint, I could be a victim to that for life and get lots of sympathy about it. Instead, I chose to forgive the person, and realize that he is a victim to something way worse than I have ever experienced or he would not be going around doing something like this. In forgiving, I let go of a whole truckload of baggage I could have been carrying around on my back!

I received an education from walking through this trauma to be able to help others. I understand what it feels like to walk through something like that. It rocks and shakes your world… but it can rock and shake your world into something that makes you stronger! Any hard thing that we go through gives us the power to rise above and be stronger… if we shift our mindset with it!

This may sound like a little meme but if we can really get ahold of it, it is life transforming! If we can find the positive side of it…Example:

1. It changed my perspective about life.

2. It made me realize that I have a life purpose.

3. Made me determined to help people!

4. Gave me an education to help change lives!

What positive things can you find about a trauma that you may have been through? I am not saying to be a robot and not feel any negative feelings. I am saying “grieve well” …. take that grief and let it turn your life in the right direction, with good fruit coming from it! Fruits of love, joy, peace, and forgiveness… not bitterness, hatred, sorrow, and torment!

A proverb in the Bible says it well, ” As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

I encourage you today to learn how to change your #mindsets around… if you need help I am here! Don’t stay stuck in a place of negative thinking that is taking you no place!!

Reach out!!

Find community!!

You DO have a purpose!!

Your story needs to help people!!

Change your #Mindset and change many lives!!

See you soon❤️

We all have them… those little lies that we believe about ourselves. Whether it be, I’m not worthy to have nice things or people will reject me if they know the real me.

Those little pesky things that come to us and make us feel less than we are. The lies that could even keep us from stepping out and doing something that we were actually called to do.

Did you know that you can get rid of those lies if you bring them out in the light and actually replace them and turn them around to the truth about you and the truth about what you can accomplish?

We just have to face these false things that we are believing and realize that they are just what they are….FALSE!

Pray and think about this…mine were all about being rejected before but that is starting to change now. I am actually finding myself surrounded by a lot more people that are celebrating me and who I am!! Turning that around and not believing the lies anymore actually changed my life! It can for sure happen for you too!

Marty and I LOVE to help people do this! We love to help people get their lives turned around and get unstuck! It’s so fun to watch their lives and their thinking get transformed! Find someone in your life to be your accountability buddy and dig down into some of these things for the new year! You are definitely worth the investment!!

Bring those lies out of the darkness!

You are not bad, you are good!

Don’t believe it one more day!

You can help others change!

If you need help let me know!❣️

See you soon👍🏼😍

This book can help you work through it:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CB7VVK7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_WJCqCbMVPXGH1

Have a fabulous day!!! 👍🏼❤️

The new year is approaching us and it’s my favorite time of the year! The time when we write out our new vision for life! I will be having a vision workshop here and also doing it online with folks! I absolutely love encouraging people to live out their destiny!

One of the tools we offer here at our home is Restoring the Foundations!! That is an awesome tool to kickstart your life and help people get free from the past and leave a brand new legacy for there children!

We are moving ahead toward being a Healing House Network with this Worldwide organization! We are very excited about this and I decided my word for this year is “Brave”! That is what I need for the days ahead! No shrinking back for me! I hope you find a word to focus on this year to keep you moving forward also! You are very worth it!

Setting goals is so important! It helps you accomplish everything that you need to accomplish! If we don’t step out in faith and lay out the vision and plan for the next year, time and days and months will get squandered away! It’s too easy to stay in our comfort zone if we are not constantly focused on changing our mindsets!

You are worth it! You are worth investing in! You don’t mind investing in other’s lives! It’s time to invest in you! I have had to do this for many years and sometimes it was totally by faith! None of it was wasted! Action births things into place!

In other words “works” means the action that we take WITH our faith! I’m not talking about just striving! I’m talking about actually stepping into something that will cause your dreams and visions to get momentum and start really happening! We need help for that! We need relationship!we can’t do everything alone! We weren’t meant to!

I encourage you to let your creative imagination take off for a moment and dream big things that are in store for your future! Don’t rob us from hearing what you have to say! If you step out of your comfort zone:

It feels so much better to not be just surviving but actually THRIVING! We will be working through the Stepping Stones Devotional starting Jan. 6th after we make our vision boards to jumpstart our New Year into a year of purpose!

If you want to join us you can get the devotional at this link:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CB7VVK7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_iZmjCbRZ7YZWM

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Don’t just be busy! Accomplish things!!

You’re special and important!!

You were created with Great purpose!!

See you soon!!👍🏼❣️