Category: Self Help

I love as the year is ending and the new year is coming in! A time for reflection, a time to think about what all we’ve learned and accomplished through the year.

One thing that I think I have learned in a big way is to stay in my lane. To do that, we have to be discerning of distractions. They are always out there saying, “Come this way!” They look so interesting and bright and shiny when they appear! That must be the path to go down! You walk down it a little time to find out, “Whoops!” Not the path I need to be on!

I also learned that:

Actually, I have learned this one many, many times… even read the book by John Maxwell.. a good book! Especially if you have ever felt like a failure about anything. It lets you know that you learn lots from so called “failures”.

Also think of this one….What is happening is exactly what is supposed to be happening… that’s probably controversial in some ways, but if I learn a lesson from it and take away from it what I am supposed to, then nothing is lost… make sense? It’s so true!

Some very exciting things are going on because if I make a blunder and still have faith that everything will be just fine, I am headed in an amazing direction and bigger things can happen than I ever could imagine! Guaranteed! Faith never fails! Love never fails! Hope never fails!

We all need a Saviour and power that is higher than us to lean on! Mine is Jesus…some have been abused by religion so the sound of that scares and hurts them. I understand, and I would never judge anyone that can’t seem to believe in that at this time. I want to live to make that attractive to people rather than try to promote anyone into believing it! That’s a slogan in recovery… think about it!

I say it constantly…keep moving forward and taking baby steps! If anyone in this email needs help with a plan of doing that, get ahold of me!

Have you thought of a defining word for your destiny for next year? I will be helping people design vision boards and expressing what their vision is for 2019! Let me know if you want to know more about that!

My defining word for 2019 “Excellence”… I will be watching for that in any and everything I get involved with!

What’s YOUR defining word for 2019?

Think about your destiny!

Think about your purpose!

What were you created for?

Don’t shrink back anymore!

Reach out if you need help!

See you soon!

I’ve had many holidays that have been so, so hard! Too many changes and way too much chaos! It didn’t matter how wonderful it was… it still felt out of sorts!

One year my Dad had just left my Mom after 44 years of marriage, and we had to go to my Dad’s house, then to my Mom’s. Anyone that has been through a divorce in any form knows that it can get messy!

We headed to my Dad’s house and now we had to “shift” into the idea of a whole new structure in our family. Life as it was, would no longer be. Now instead of going to my parent’s nice, cozy home where my dad had just remodeled and put in a new fireplace, we went to his new, different home and didn’t know what to get this new person that we didn’t even know.

To make matters a tad more complex, I had just gotten remarried and my kids and I had to go to a whole new family there also. My kids probably saw it as a lot more presents and a lot more fun places to go, but I saw it as a lot more presents to buy and a lot more confusion.

That year I remember going to my mom’s and seeing how hurt she was that we had spent so much time at my dads and then taking my kids to their dad and getting yelled at for not bringing them sooner! As I’m writing this I remember saying to myself, “I hate Christmas and I don’t even want to celebrate it again!”

I realize that it started me hating Christmas and never wanting to celebrate it again. I am so grateful that I have learned that I can break vows that I have made in my life! Vows that we make in our life can hold us in a pattern! It doesn’t matter what we have been through…. we certainly do not have to hate Christmas or anything else!There is forgiveness, there is restoration for anything and everything in your life.

We can not compare our situation to anyone else’s situation! We just have to decide for ourselves what is right for us and what fits in our life! We just can’t live like the Hallmark movies all the time! Sometimes we have to find our own peace in the midst of our own storm! The best that we can “go with the flow” the better off we can be. I have 4 things that will help you enjoy it better if you have had complications like I have had… I think if we were to be honest, in this world we live in, most families have some complications! May not be exactly like mine, but definitely not Hallmark!🎄❤️

1. Turn off your expectations! You never know what may happen so just go with it!

2. Turn on your forgiveness and listen a little more than you talk!

3. Little things are just as special as bigger things! Sometimes more so!

4. Buying someone a gift is not a sign of how much you care about them!

Whoops one more!

5. They probably aren’t expecting as much from you as what you are thinking! And if they are, they need to learn Number 1. These things have certainly helped me.

My Christmas is lots more about “Peace on Earth and Good Will Toward Men!” Thinking of my Saviour being brought to Earth to bring these things to a hurting world!

I sincerely hope that you may find Hope, Peace, and Comfort this holiday season! Let the holiday flow the way it will, and look at the little hidden treasures along the way!

I went a funeral yesterday and got to meet my grandmother’s cousin, that officiated the funeral…my mom that’s 91 mentioned to him who she was and he said, “Oh my! you are a DaVault and you are walking in high cotton!” I love that phrase and when he said it, it reminded me of my me-mow (my grandmother) and it brought tears to my eyes. The phrase was from gentler days! Another treasure that has happened to me this year!!

Look for the hidden treasures!

They are important!

You are important!

You are ROYALTY!!

Don’t let anything steal your worth!

We are ALL walking in HIGH cotton!!

See you soon!❤️🎄

Courage has nothing to do with us or our abilities. Courage, is to keep moving forward no matter what it looks like. It is finding the good in each day, in each person, in each circumstance that you face. It is in trusting God when you are not sure He is still there or even still hears your prayers.

Courage does not come from us…it comes from Heaven. Have you ever been backed into a corner and not known which way to turn? I sent this quote to my sister in law that is in the hospital today waiting for the port to start receiving chemo… that’s when reality about life and death really hits… that’s when the little worries you had seem like nothing… that’s when you need a miracle❣️

Let’s be encouraged to make each day count in our lives… let the important things be the important things…encourage others and help them rise up❣️ Let’s not take things for granted❣️

Blessings, Joy, Healing, and Prosperity to all of you this holiday season…

Remember….Just for today…

Lord make me an instrument of Thy peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy.

O, Father, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console, to be understood as to understand; to be loved, as to love; for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

I love that and it’s a good thing to TRY to be! As we begin to walk through this holiday season let’s try to remember all of these things instead of what the perfect gift may be… how can we gift people’s souls?

I’m speaking to myself❣️

Let’s try to change the world❣️

We can do this❣️

No judgment, just LOVE❣️

You are important to others❣️

See you soon❣️

I don’t know about you, but destiny has been calling me my whole life! Sometimes it’s not a real clear path and sometimes it is loud and clear! One thing that I do know is that if I start getting off in the wrong direction there will be something that snaps me back into place.

There are so many times that I will just think it is completely gone and I will think, “Oh good! Now I can just be a normal person!” But NO… it always shows up again and it always gets rolling again! I really am glad though, because I KNOW I am supposed to be doing it, I just don’t always know how!

Sometimes we just have to blunder along the way a little to run right back into that thing!! Really, it’s a part of us and it is our destiny! So we can run but we can’t hide!! Do you have something that keeps popping up… just a gut feeling and a “knowing” that you have to be doing something?

I want to encourage you today…keep listening to that still, small voice inside and you for sure will do the right thing! There are obstacles along the way… there are for sure distractions. But you listen to that voice and you WILL fulfill your destiny.

People can even mislead you by wanting you to do other things…some can do the other things…but not you, you are chosen! You have to stay on that narrow path or it just won’t work out for you! You are the only one on earth that can do this! Your life has taught you how to do it!!

Just jump in!! Don’t run anymore!! Come into agreement with it and own it!! Once you do, you won’t believe the miracles that can happen! Finances will come in, good fruit starts coming forth!! You will get all kinds of confirmations!

Don’t give up!!

Listen to the still, small voice!!

Destiny awaits!!

Only YOU can do it!!

There WILL be a way, where there seems to be no way!!

See you soon!!❤️

So grateful for all of the special friends and loved ones that wished me such wonderful Birthday wishes yesterday! I am so blessed with many friends and people in my life❣️ I am also grateful for the lessons that I have learned along the way.

No matter what you have and what you acquire in this world, it’s good to keep your feet planted firmly on the ground. It’s good to be simple and remain in reality. It’s ok to get excited about things, it’s ok to learn and grow in new ways, but the main thing is hanging on to you and your purpose and what you bring to this Earth.

Sometimes it may be something as simple as sitting with a sick friend, sometimes it may be watching your grandchildren…and other times it may be something more grand and large. We have no control of the grand and large things and can’t sit and be sad if those days aren’t here! We have to embrace the everyday mundane and quiet times and find the little treasures in each day. It’s not really good for us to get everything we want all the time…we don’t appreciate it and it’s not as valuable.

It’s wonderful to be able to get excited over itsy, bitsy things! To find the joy in these things! To be grateful for these things! To know that the grass is not greener on the other side and the happiness and joy that we have comes mostly in how we look at things!

It’s the little surprises along the way… the little joys, the nice thing that someone may say, the way a problem that was insurmountable works out, the little surprises! Don’t loose the wonder… the knowing that the surprises are around the corner… the knowing that even though you have had many bleak days there is going to be a little surprise coming! Maybe not an ENORMOUS breakthrough but maybe a small new truth in your life!!

It’s all about our gratitude, acceptance, surprises, and little joys along the way! It’s all about HOPE!

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Perception is

Everything!!

Can you wrap your mind around that? It’s what I learned through suffering and I wouldn’t trade that lesson for anything!

Enjoy right where you are!

Embrace little surprises!

Keep it simple!

The little things are as good as the BIG things!

Don’t give up HOPE!

There’s a surprise in every hard day!!

See you soon❣️