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I love that!! It’s so true too! Failure is just a lie that our minds tell us to keep us failing. If you believe you are a failure then you remain one. If you learn from a time when you fail, I call that a success.

The enemy of our soul can feed all kinds of lies into our mind and convince us of how we can’t do this or do that!! We do have to be clear about what we need to be doing, but usually we can figure that out if we try it and it just doesn’t work out.

If we are not afraid of failing, we aren’t so afraid to take risks. Risk taking is healthy and full of faith. From all the calamities and disasters that I have been involved in, I learned SO much! I learned that you can’t present someone with a bunch of do’s and dont’s if you can’t be in a relationship with them and walk it out with them.

Sometimes people aren’t capable of what we expect of them. Sometimes we expect too much out of people and don’t put ourselves in their shoes. Empathy is a very needed thing in our culture. People need to be heard and understood.

I have learned that if the people around you really are celebrating you and who you are, that you start believing you are somebody. We love to take people through sessions at our house and figure out all of the lies in their mind and then help them find the truth and walk it out.

If someone is walking around believing all these lies, it’s hard for them to rise above it!! Of course there is always a balance here too. Some people are happy just the way they are, don’t want to change, and you just have to let them be where they are. It’s good to be able to discern between the two so you don’t waste their time and yours. We can’t control anyone else and it’s not our responsibility to do so.

Being teachable and learning, are the keys to success. Finding people that are doing what you want to be doing and learn from them. Be humble and not thinking you already know everything. Being open to God’s leading. If you aren’t even capable of that, be around people that can get you there.

We aren’t meant to be isolated islands. We are meant to be around people. Learning and growing, and sharing what we know too. Every one reading this has a purpose and lots to offer to whoever you are assigned to.

Don’t ever think you have failed beyond repair. There is ALWAYS hope for a turnaround. There can always be a SHIFT in things. We all make mistakes, we all learn from mistakes and take the things we need from that experience.

We brush the dust off, become an overcomer, go on to the next adventure with more wisdom and more humility.

Life is positively positive!!

Failure is not failure!!

Tomorrow❤    ( I still need to learn hashtags ##) ……I will😊

Grace is a wonderful subject. Was just at a conference recently where the speaker spoke about Grace. I’ve always heard that it was unmerited Favor, which is part of it. But the main thing that Grace is, is empowerment.

Empowerment to do something that you are not able to do. For instance, I am being given the Grace to write this blog. This is something I would have NEVER done. It is when supernatural power takes over where you are not capable. I have had this show up many times in life and I am sure you have too.

When I think about a time I had just gone through a divorce. God supernaturally let me buy my house but I didn’t even work at that time. Just had a few clients that I was doing in my home. It kept going through my mind, how am I going to pay for this house? I just knew I would make it though.

About 3 weeks before my first house payment was due, I was just praying to God and getting scared and at that time I broke a poverty spirit off of me. I can explain that later if you want to know about it.

Within 2 days I got a call from my good friend’s sister. She was frantic. She asked me if I could take on all of my friend’s clientele because she had been in an accident. Now that was Grace. My friend even eventually started doing something different in her life because she wanted to change professions. I had a wonderful clientele of the most magnificent customers. That Grace empowered my girls and I to make it.

There are times when people are given Grace to do something when they don’t even ask for it. When they are not even capable of asking for it. When they don’t even know how to ask for it. God is good. Sometimes He’s loving us and doing things when we don’t even know it.

I just say Thank You God for your Grace. For giving us ability to do things sometimes when we can’t. For making things fall into place when they are impossible. Amazing Grace!

Try to think of times when Grace has been poured out in your life…

Its all good!!

Tomorrow❤

 

Wo!! Let’s talk about pretending. This is a HUGE subject!! Many people are walking around pretending that they are ok but they are not. I think after you pretend long enough you go into a state of denial and think you are ok. I have learned that shame is a huge thing that causes that. I learned that in RTF. (Restoring the Foundations Ministries)

First something happens to you that you are ashamed of, then you get in fear that people will find out, so you try to control it. You can control by pretending that everything’s is ok. Thats almost like lying, pretending that everything is ok. I’m not saying that you need to tell everyone in the whole world about everything, I’m just saying you have to deal with things.

Lets get real!! I haven’t had any choice but to get real!! Do you know how freeing it is to get real about things? Really when I made the move here, that’s part of what made me lose my voice. I would share my story and people weren’t used to the transparency I had. I could feel that my story was not being celebrated so I started being quiet, and being ashamed of my story. I started feeling like I had to pretend that I was “normal” like they were.

What a bunch of bunk!! I’m telling you everyone has an imperfect life and stuff to deal with! We might as well be honest and learn how to help one another, instead of acting like we have it all together and don’t have anything to learn.

It can turn into pride. Pride is not good. You will not make it forever operating on pride. We have to always be teachable from people. You can’t trust everyone, but I know that you can learn from people that you can’t even imagine you could learn from. God even used a donkey to teach people.

Proverbs 16:18 Pride goes before destruction. A haughty spirit before a fall.

Sorry if I’m sounding a little preachy, I hate that, but hey if we think we are all that and won’t listen to anyone, we could fall flat in our face, like I have done many times. There are always little warnings for us along the way. We just need to start noticing and listening to them. We gotta be teachable.

I was so cray that even after I got a divorce from my husband the second time, he started coming around wanting to go to church with me, acting like he was getting it together again. One day my daughter said, “Mom, you’ve already married him twice!”……Yah! Duh! Set a boundary with him the next day and ended it!!

I had a natural gift of compassion, mercy, and love. What I had to learn was, toughness, boundaries and dealing with things. Let’s face it Jesus did get mad about things. I think He still does with us sometimes to get us to wake up and change!! It’s for our own good!! When we keep being stubborn He will let us go through consequences so we will wake up!

When something goes on and on and on sometimes it’s time to let it go and be done with it!! Unchecked mercy is lethal!! I encourage you, if you have feelings that you are in denial about, or a situation that you are having “faith” that it will change. You need to make sure you are hearing Gods voice and not the enemy’s voice just keeping you distracted from what you are really supposed to be doing!!

You know what? Our problems are really no big deal? We have them so blasted out in our mind and to God they are itsy bitsy. He did create the earth, you know!! He knows how to draw us back. He’s always waiting with open arms to welcome us back!!  We can never be perfect, do everything perfectly, and it’s not expected.

Stop pretending and “Be free!”

Feels so good to be me again!!

Tomorrow❤

Just talked to a friend that asked if I have ever experienced depression or mental illness. I would have to say with compassion for people that have dealt with it, personally I have not. I have only dealt with it by being married to someone experiencing it. I know that it is a heartbreaking, debilitating illness that is very misunderstood. I know that people do not understand and want people to snap out of it. And I know that it is not that easy. By saying I was never on an antidepressant, in no way do I mean to say that I think no one should be. I just kinda think that it’s a miracle I wasn’t, don’t you??

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Emotions are a tricky thing. They can fool you. I know one thing I have learned is that you can’t be ruled by them. They can lead you astray. It’s a fine line with them. You definitely have to feel your feelings, but they aren’t the boss of your life. Again, balance.

Let’s take sad, for instance, of course it’s right to feel sad about something. But there comes a time where something, I say Holy Spirit, kicks in and says, “Ok, you’ve felt this feeling long enough. If you keep feeling this way, it’s going to lead to depression.” That little nudge is telling me it’s time to start praying and working on myself to move on.

I do understand severe depression too. One of my marriages was with a man that struggled with severe clinical depression and addiction. I will have to say, and I am bragging in no way, that miraculously through my life I have never been on an antidepressant one day. I know they are needed to help people because I’ve watched depression, I’ve seen how it works, it’s a very real thing that can take you down. The sad thing that I saw was, with some people, the help can end up the hindrance. One doctor turned into 8 doctors. So we need the right kind of help sometimes.

I also know that just because you are there doesn’t mean you have to stay there. Just because someone has called you Bi Polar doesn’t mean you will be forever. That does not have to be your identity. I’ve seen many people walk out of that and lead normal lives. There is always hope.

That’s the main thing, having hope, and faith and not giving up no matter what the situation is. I believe we have to get any amount of help we can. That could mean, prayer, recovery meetings, deliverance, inner healing,  and anything else it takes to walk it out. I’m pretty passionate about all of these things, because I’ve seen great results and change for people.

I think lots of people are numb. The bad part about numb is that you don’t feel the good things like joy, peace, and happiness. Which help keeping us going, growing, and changing. There were probably times when I didn’t feel joyful for long, long, periods of time. But that didn’t mean it was gone. I was just being bombarded with other feelings and it wasn’t time for joy yet. When it was time, it broke through again. Its ok to go through pain and suffering sometimes. That’s life. It will end if you turn to the right sources.

Another scripture,  ” Weeping will endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.”Ps. 30:5.  I choose, joy, I choose life. I choose to keep my eyes on what I am supposed to accomplish and I choose to never give up.

I remember one time I was ready to go to the doctor and I talked to my sponser at Al Anon about it. I told her, ” I think I’m depressed.” She said, “Don’t ever let that come out of your mouth again.” I was shocked!! I don’t think that was her speaking to me . I think it was my savior. He showed up like that to me because I had decided to get every amount of help that I could get.

Knock, and the door shall open. Seek and you shall find.

Prov. 15:22  Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed!

Don’t give up! Even on bad days, months, years!! Don’t give up!!

Tomorrow❤️